I’m not going to pick sides between you and your ex. Especially if we were all friends before your breakup.
I’m not going to carefully re-arrange my invite lists around your breakup.
I’m not going to join you in trash-talking your ex (my friend).
I’m not going to change my expectation that you act like an adult at adult functions. Even if your ex is present. Even if he brought his new girlfriend.
Here’s what I will do:
I will support you! I’ll spend time with you, watch romcoms, share a bottle of wine or whatever will help you as you’re moving on.
I’ll understand if you have to decline my invitations or leave early.
I’ll listen if you need to rant!
I’ll be there for you as best I can. a shoulder if you need one, a sounding board, a listening ear, we can even go out into the backyard and break stuff, if that will help. 🙂 But I won’t damage relationships and experiences with others because of an ugly breakup.
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